A child won't make him stay.

Their marriage was already on the rocks, she knew she was loosing him he was slightly slipping away her fingers and there was nothing she could do about it, had she not tried every trick in the book she surely would not have considered a child, or maybe she would have it's amazing what desperation can do to people.

It was the 3rd year into their marriage and what used to be was no longer, they were once inlove and inseperable or atleast that's what she thought, but we all know men don't have consistancy what ever they do can only last for so long. He had changed without dropping any hints; the Zolani she married was gone she now lived with a stranger in her house, he was never home and when he was he would be so glued to his phone going through all the messages in all his social network accounts, she envied how much attention that phone got "only if i can know what he does, who he talks to everyday without fail" she thought. Not every marriage is a Cinderalla story parents should educate their children and prepare them so that they will always reserve a room for disappoinments. My aunt always said "China amadoda zizinja" typical Xhosa she is but in some occurance i have come to witness what she used to say.

The more Tshidi thought Zolani would stop this bad habit with his phone the more he was always on his phone, till the early hours of the morning, she would try to talk to him and would just nod, "what is he nodding to i just asked him a question?" she burst out one evening. She was now paranoid to find out what kept her husband away from her, one night overcame by his sleep she skulked, got his phone and went through every other message on every feeder and of course what you dont know wont kill you, but she did not know that or perhaps she turned a blind eye to that, the Chief was having an affair and all the times he wasn't home he was having a cosy dinner with his new found love, no wonder he was too tired when he got home it was always an excuse after another, he either had a long day or was not looking forward to it, a countless times she had to beg him to touch her let alone kiss her he was just too bushed to carry out the duties, well uduh! he would be he goes gets it somewhere wipes the mouth and come back home he would not touch her was too tired to carry out double shifts jobs.

Women are just naive, having learnt all of that she was determined to keep him, to force him to love her, to get his attention; she had it all figured out. Tshidi urged by her situation to think and act fast "bingo" she knew what she had to do she was going to trap him with a child, she was on a pill decided to stop using it and went all Delilah on him it was the only way to get him to sleep with her she needed to fall pregnant and the sooner it happened the sooner her troubles would end. her wish was granted she indeed concieved and was feeling accomplished but that happiness was one sided, he was done with her,he had fallen out of love and a child was not going to make him stay no matter what, screw the religion or what people thought and said about him it was his happiness, his life and if it meant being selfish so be it, i'm not really sure if she did not see that he was not inlove with her anymore but she onstensibly was determined to change his attitude towards her. " I don't know what gave you the child ideas but i am not pleased at all" he said after finding out she was pregnant he knew it was a game she was playing to make him stay and he refused to be the used like that. The way we choose to see the world creates the world we see; true but if that was her reasoning believe me ignorance had reached its peak and she was just being stupid; well they say love make you stupid if that's true i have seen it with Tshidi i can attest to it. Two months into the pregnancy was too much for Zolani he left, moved out and moved in with his new lady. No one knows where they live he only came once to see the child that was the day he was born he has not returned since the child is almost 2 years now, i doubt he even knows how much huggies or pampers costs.

Though there's still quite a few descent men out there that won't abandon their children, still under no circumstances should a child be an option to make  a man love you, he might still be there for his kid but all you'll ever be is his baby mama nothing less nothing more there's enough single parents as is let's try and be responsible if he does not love you no more don't waste your time trying to get his attention because you might loose someone who really would appreciate and love you in the process. If a glass breakes you can't mend it so are other delicate things in life, solving a problem with a problem is not a solution at all